The dark side is the dark side of a living thing: selfishness, fear, anger, hate, aggression, bitterness, jealousy, centered around greed. It's not malevolent, but those who are motivated by these emotions and relying on them to achieve their goals, are going to do things that are evil. On the superficial level, sometimes they won't appear as evil because it's beneficial. For example, Luke could have destroy the Death Star out of hatred, anger, out of fear of him losing his friends, out of his desire to be celebrated. The result is the same, but the amount of evil is still the same, only replaced a weapon of mass destruction with a pilot who caused mass destruction.
But it's not one thing or the other, it's a spectrum. The Jedi keep their dark side under check, so they will have it, but won't be ruled by it, and this requires diligence. The Sith are consumed by their dark side. Ventress gradually progressed from dark toward light.
Han Solo was more on the dark in New Hope, then he gradually progressed toward the light by the end of Return of the Jedi.